WHY do we dream,
and if we do WHY with open eyes.
WHY do we hope,
and if we do WHY expect high.
WHY do we want,
and if we do WHY it never satisfies.
WHY do we laugh,
and if we do WHY with a cry.
WHY there is a lie,
and if there is WHY dont we try.
WHY are we so certain,
but still no reply .
All around us
there are things
Which we think
what it seems
but why dont we realize
There are no X
There are no Z
but only a Y!
Thursday, April 24, 2008
Friday, April 4, 2008
The Golden Rule for communication
Sometimes there are certain things in your mind which are so clear and precise. You understand them very well and feel like conveying them to others. Yet the person whom you want to convey just does not sees it. How hopeless you feel at such situation. I am sure this thing happens with many of us at different points with different people. Sometimes the person in question could be the one with whom you share the most comfortable relationship and the best understanding yet you cannot deliver your idea that effectively the way you see it.
Well I know sometimes it becomes very difficult for us humans to communicate with each other. We see the dogs barking around and feel that the communication between them is so effective. But sometimes we feel so useless when we want to convey something to a person whom we really want to see it as we feel but we are so ineffective in doing that and then we start questioning ourself. It might seem so easy but still it doesnt happen the way we want.
When we want to convey something and we are not successful in doing that its not because of our limitation to good communication. Neither is it due to we choicing a less effective way for communication. Well thinking about it I discovered that problem behind this is an "attitude" in us which is quite genuine. It is actually the attitude that the listenner has. If you think about it then you will be able to see that "You can only tell a person what s/he wants to hear". You cannot just "Tell a person what you want him/her to hear". These are two different things.
So to put your point forward either you have to tell the person what s/he wants to hear. But then that will not be what you want to tell the person. So to tell what you want :
1. either wait for the person to be ready to hear it or
2. you have to somehow make the two things i.e "what you want to tell " and "what they want to hear" as one and the same
Well the first thing is pretty simple and does not needs much effort. It requires patience and i believe, knowingly or unknowingly, is the method most of us follow. The second one requires a lot of thinking and understanding. And this I believe if understood could be the golden rule of communication or I should say effective communication.
Making a person believe that what s/he wants to hear is exactly what YOU want to tell!
Well I know sometimes it becomes very difficult for us humans to communicate with each other. We see the dogs barking around and feel that the communication between them is so effective. But sometimes we feel so useless when we want to convey something to a person whom we really want to see it as we feel but we are so ineffective in doing that and then we start questioning ourself. It might seem so easy but still it doesnt happen the way we want.
When we want to convey something and we are not successful in doing that its not because of our limitation to good communication. Neither is it due to we choicing a less effective way for communication. Well thinking about it I discovered that problem behind this is an "attitude" in us which is quite genuine. It is actually the attitude that the listenner has. If you think about it then you will be able to see that "You can only tell a person what s/he wants to hear". You cannot just "Tell a person what you want him/her to hear". These are two different things.
So to put your point forward either you have to tell the person what s/he wants to hear. But then that will not be what you want to tell the person. So to tell what you want :
1. either wait for the person to be ready to hear it or
2. you have to somehow make the two things i.e "what you want to tell " and "what they want to hear" as one and the same
Well the first thing is pretty simple and does not needs much effort. It requires patience and i believe, knowingly or unknowingly, is the method most of us follow. The second one requires a lot of thinking and understanding. And this I believe if understood could be the golden rule of communication or I should say effective communication.
Making a person believe that what s/he wants to hear is exactly what YOU want to tell!
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